The Top 7 Pet Peeves of Advanced Networkers
Let’s face it: When you attend as many networking events/groups — as the Advanced Networkers in our Promote Her Business community — in addition to accumulating business cards, it’s also easy to accumulate pet peeves.
And sometimes it’s best to get them out in the open — not to be negative or create drama — but rather, to be able to articulate what’s not working — or not working as well as you’d like… so you can tackle the issues head-on and create the Ultimate Networking experience (which is exactly what we’re doing at Promote Her Business and appreciate your feedback too).
Here are THE Top 7 Networking Pet Peeves (I’ve heard about all sorts of networking groups over the years)…
Do any of these sound familiar? Or make you happy that other women feel like this too!!
1) Attendees Value Short-term Gains over Meaningful Relationships
People only care about getting immediate business from you. And if you don’t seem to want to buy their products/services today, your relationship is over before it began.
People have no interest in what you do… they hardly ask you any questions. On the contrary, the only thing they care about is promoting their business until you make up an excuse to get away!
3) Not on the Same Page
People don’t ask your permission before adding you to their list and/or are consistently calling you about attending events you never expressed interest in getting more information about.
People act like they’re back in high school. They stand in circles with friends and make it very difficult for new people to break in. And when you talk, they nod their heads to pacify you and then, go back to their conversations, and never offer to introduce you to others.
5) Boring and Redundant
Sure, there are highly-repeated, old-school formats for networking — such as where people sit in a circle week after week and do the same 1 minute commercial until you know everyone’s commercials so well that you want to bang your head against the wall, fall asleep or give yourself a high-five for taking yourself to the next level of patience (lol).
And clearly, so many networking groups wouldn’t be boring their members with such an overused format if it didn’t produce results, right? Or, could there be more interesting formats to achieve the same (or even BETTER) results –but it’s just easier doing what’s always been done? What’s interesting is a lot of the duplicated formats are done from a male paradigm — wouldn’t it be cool to explore what “doing business her way” could look like?
6) Painful to Watch
Oh, and don’t even get us started on forcing people with an extreme fear of public speaking to present their business in front of a group… as a “perk” of being in a group. Seriously?!! It’s like giving someone with a fear of spiders the “perk” of holding a tarantula at the zoo.
Although we can’t argue that terrified business owners are entertaining to watch (rolls eyes…) — the reality is that a tortuous business presentation is usually ineffective since it focuses both the speaker and the audience on the Wrong Thing.
Instead of focusing the business owner on presenting their products/services in the best light; the business owner is focused on not passing out in front of the audience, and in turn, the audience is focused on feeling sorry for them (as opposed to focused on why they’d want to buy what they’re selling)!
And then, who hasn’t been to a “business” networking group (emphasis on Business),where people say that it’s all about “getting to know each other” socially, and it’s looked down upon to promote what you do? It’s always a bad sign, when you start to feel Guilty that your Passion in life IS to help people through your business. Instead, you feel peer pressured to say your passion is some hobby (which you haven’t had time to do … while you were working on your real passion — your business!)
So, how does PHB Create a More Empowering Context for Networking?
Although our Promote Her Business community is far from perfect — and we genuinely want Your Feedback on continually improving— here are some things we can promise you:
1) Focus on Deeper Relationships:
We don’t believe in card-and-runs (where people take your business card and never follow-up with you again) That’s why we have unique formats to build Deeper Relationships Faster with more people. But don’t believe us, join us as a FREE Guest for PHB’s Virtual Speed Networking and build more win-win, profitable relationships while applying an Advanced Networking tip.
2) Put the Spotlight on Others:
PHB’s events are designed to have Women Listen, have Vulnerable Conversations, and Ask Questions about each other’s businesses (good bye ego-centric events!) We even go as far as to test our ability to promote each other during win-win 1:1’s. PHB’s Global Networking Circle is revolutionizing how Advanced Networking is done … This is pretty cool given we’re doing “Business Her Way” right?!! Also, inquire about attending a PHB Private Networking Circle as a 1X Free guest to experience PHB’s culture of care:)
3) Culture of “Soft-Selling”:
Pushing things on people is not cool, and neither is spamming facebook groups! If you do this, PHB will not be a good fit for you. With that said, there is a difference between pushing others and promoting your business in agreed upon ways on our Friends of Promote Her Business public facebook. For example, feel free to participate in our Teach-Her Tuesdays (where you post 100% value pieces) or Promote Her Business Thursdays (where you can post any product, service, event you’re selling). Join our FB group here.
4) Collaboration over Competition:
At PHB, we don’t do cliques — in fact, we design our events to get to know new people and to be peer mentors. For example, during our virtual Women Entrepreneurs “WE” Market Group each month, you can compare best practices in promotion and ask other ladies to give you feedback on your marketing materials. We also believe in collaboration over competition, so Women Entrepreneurs in the same industry can learn from each other and compare notes.
5) Advanced Networking:
We believe there are many ways to get a successful result when networking — and using an overdone format doesn’t have to be one of them! That’s why PHB formats are very innovative and unique… and they aren’t like any other women’s group, business group, or networking group… we do networking PHB-style … very fun, very memorable, and highly rewarding! We even have a proven, proprietary Advanced Networking methodology to conduct Win-Win 1:1s and group chats.
6) Speaking Perks:
The only people who get the “perk” of speaking are Women who Want to be on stage. When you become a PHB Int’l member, you can apply to be featured during a PHB Power Talk Interview or for a Healthy-Her Spotlight. As a Member, you will be on the journey to learn, live, and eventually mentor other women entrepreneurs in the 12 Principles to Promote Her Business. RSVP to attend PHB’s 12 Principles Learning Lab as a 1X FREE guest.
7) Online and Offline Promotion:
Women have been anonymous and hidden away enough over the centuries. We are called Promote Her Business for a reason, and we won’t bait and switch you when you join us. Yes, you will make new friends; yes, you can socialize; and yes, your business won’t be the only thing you talk about.
But you will ALWAYS get to promote your business– without guilt. And we firmly believe in promoting your business and each other — Online. Offline. All the time. For the more people know us, the more they think of us 1st and buy from Women Entrepreneurs 1st. We also are fans of leveraging our network and marketing talents to think bigger than our business and unite to promote our favorite causes too:) #GossipForGood
What’s the Next Step?
Have some of your biggest pet peeves have been addressed in the Promote Her Business community?
If so, we invite you to consider joining us as a PHB International Member. Our program is 100% virtual, and includes Advanced Networking events via video conference and learning marketing/sales around your schedule.
Here’s to promoting your business and each other: Online. Offline. All the time.
Jōs Hanan, Founder/CEO, Promote Her Business International