02 Feb What are YOUR Top 7 Pet Peeves about Networking?
Let’s face it: When you attend as many networking events/groups — as the high-powered connectors in our Promote Her Business community — in addition to accumulating business cards, it’s also easy to accumulate pet peeves.
And sometimes it’s best to get them out in the open — not to be negative or create drama — but rather, to be able to articulate what’s not working — or not working as well as you’d like… so you can tackle the issues head-on and create the ULTIMATE Networking experience (which is exactly what we’re doing at Promote Her Business and appreciate your feedback as we go).
Here are THE Top 7 Networking Pet Peeves (I’ve heard about all sorts of networking groups over the years)…
Do any of these sound familiar? Or make you want to scream — OMG, other people feel like this too!!
1) Attendees Value Making a Quick Buck over Making Relationships
People only care about getting immediate business from you. And if you don’t seem to want to buy their products/services today, your relationship is over before it began.
People have no interest in what you do… they hardly ask you any questions. On the contrary, the only thing they care about is promoting their business until you make up an excuse to get away!
3) Not on the same page
People don’t ask your permission before adding you to their list and/or are consistently calling you about attending events you never expressed interest in getting more information about
People act like they’re back in high school. They stand in circles with friends and make it very difficult for new people to break in. And when you talk, they nod their heads to pacify you and then, go back to their conversations,, and never offer to introduce you to others.
5) BORING, Redundant
Sure, there are highly-repeated, old-school formats for networking — such as where people sit in a circle week after week and do the same 1 minute commercial until you know everyone’s commercials so well that you want to bang your head against the wall, fall asleep or give yourself a high-five for taking yourself to the next level of patience (lol).
And clearly, so many networking groups wouldn’t be boring their members with such an overused/unimaginative format if it didn’t get the best results, right? Or, could there be more interesting formats to achieve the same results –but it’s just easier doing what’s always been done and what people already know?
6) Painful to Watch
Oh and don’t even get us started on forcing people with an extreme fear of public speaking to present their business in front of a group.. as a “perk” of being in a group. Seriously?!! It’s like giving someone with a fear of spiders the ‘perk” of holding a tarantula at the zoo.
Although we can’t argue that terrified business owners are entertaining to watch (evil laugh…) — the reality is that a torturous business presentation is usually ineffective since it’s focused on the WRONG Thing.
Instead of focusing the business owner on presenting their products/services in the best light; the business owner is focused on not passing out in front of the audience, and in turn, the audience is focused on feeling sorry for them (as opposed to focused on why they’d want to buy what they’re selling)!
And then, who hasn’t been to a business networking group (emphasis on Business),where people say that it’s all about “getting to know each other” socially and it’s looked down upon to promote what you do? It’s always a bad sign, when you start to feel GUILTY that your PASSION in life IS to help people through your business. Instead, you feel peer pressured to lie and say your passion is some hobby (which you haven’t had time to do … while you were working on your real passion — your business!)
Although we are far from perfect — and want YOUR FEEDBACK on how to continuing improving into a culture you’re proud to invite friends into — at Promote Her Business, here are some things we can promise you:
1) We don’t believe in card-and-runs (where people take your business card and never follow-up with you again) That’s why at each event, we remind members to follow-up with a minimum of 1 person after each event a best practice
2) Our 2nd Tuesday Networking/Ultimate Promotion Contest –– is entirely focused on your ability to LISTEN and ASK Questions about other people’s businesses (good bye ego-centric events!)
3) We have a culture of “soft-selling” — pushing things on people is not cool! And if you do this, PHB will not be a good fit for you.
4) Every 4th Wednesday luncheon, feel free to sit with a new group of welcoming/supportive entrepreneurs to brainstorm with! We don’t do cliques — we do getting to know as many people as possible — and going out of our way to make everyone feel included (especially if they’re new!)
5) We believe there are many ways to get a successful result when networking — and using an overdone format doesn’t have to be one of them! That’s why PHB formats are very innovative and unique… and they aren’t like any other women’s group, business group, or networking group… we do networking PHB-style … more fun, more memorable, and highly rewarding!
6) The only people who get the “perk’ of speaking are people who WANT to be on stage, and have a message that will benefit other member’s marketing, sales or business.
7) Women have been anonymous and hidden away enough over the centuries. We are called Promote Her Business for a reason and won’t bait and switch you when you get here. Yes, you will make friendships; yes, you can socialize; and yes, your business won’t be the only thing you talk about. But you will ALWAYS get to talk about it — without guilt. And we firmly believe promote your business and each other — online. offline. all the time!
But don’t take our word for it — see if some of your biggest pet peeves have been addressed in the Promote Her Business community! Check out a local PHB chapter near you:)
Here’s to promoting your business and each other: Online. Offline. All the Time!